HI. My Name is Tommy

Hi,my name is Tommy and I am Sarah's boyfriend. Sarah and I met through a dating site called Plenty of Fish the last week of April. I helped her, Donna and her five amazing children move from Fort Lee, VA to the house where we now reside in Petersburg, VA. I fell in love with the amazing person that Sarah is and her children, I love them all very much. Danny, her soon to be ex-husband is a Sargent in the U.S. Army. The U.S. Military is something I have the utmost pride and respect for and the sacrifices they make for all of us. However, the Military is made up of individuals and Danny is an individual I have absolutely no respect for, and it is his actions in this personal matter that I detest with the utmost passion. With a powerful statement such as this, and explanation is in order. What you are about to read is the story through my eyes, what I have witnessed, what I have seen and heard.
        Danny and Sarah had been together over ten years! That's a long time. In that time they have had a family unit and a stable home. Danny cheated on Sarah in October with her then best friend Margot and it turned into an ongoing affair.(He admitted all of this and all his past infidelities at the custody hearing Friday.) Danny chose to leave the family in February to be with Margot He wanted to keep his family and Margot too and Sarah said no. Choosing to leave the family is one thing but to rip it apart out of pure spite is another. In the time we left Fort Lee, till the first 15min hearing on the 1st of June he saw the kids twice! Twice!!! No Calls Nothing. He originally Filed for visitation, not custody on April 23rd, Sarah Filed for custody April 26th. On June 1st in court, he said he changed his mind and wanted custody. He used unfounded CPS reports against Sarah (By The Way he's the one that called them in the first place.) The Guardian Ad Litem was appointed and based on these ridiculous accusations the judge granted temporary custody to Danny and the three youngest children were taken on the 7th, not giving the Ad Litem time to see the kids and the home they were being taken away from. He was re-assigned to Fort Benning, Georgia and that's where he took the kids. Sarah was granted reasonable and seasonable visitation. She rarely got to speak to her children and when she did, it was on speakerphone with him so he could monitor and tell them what to and not to say. Three days prior to him picking up the kids, he came in our yard and took her Durango leaving her and his kids stranded. It is marital property and he has another car. He stated numerous times he didn't want it he bought it for her. She works at Domino's as a driver. How is she going to support herself??? And what if she had to take the kids to the doctor? I had my own place at the time, what if I wasn't there??? We got to see the kids for the weekend Friday at 7:30 till 9am this morning for the first time since June 7. He has not spoken to the oldest two boys or asked about them in this time frame and the only reason we got this small fraction of time was the court ordered him to do so on Friday. He was going to drive away without leaving car seats and let the oldest two boys watch him drive away Calling for him. Based on what I have observed the only reason he wants to have custody is so he doesn't have to pay child support and to hurt Sarah the only way he can... attack her heart. Prove he is still in control and she is under his thumb. This man was mental and physically abusive to Sarah and the kids. Every time I've seen him he acts like an arrogant, conceited, pompous ass. Who only cares about himself and hurting Sarah because she wouldn't bow down to him and give him his cake and eat it too. Anyone can be a sperm donor, it takes a man to be a Dad.
        The Children. Through all of this, that is what is most important! Not what Sarah, Danny or I want. What would be best for them? What would make them the happiest? Where would they prosper and thrive? Where would they have the love, the time and the stable nurturing environment they need? It's not for me to say where they should be they have a Guardian Ad L idem for that. But in comparison I believe here is the obvious choice.